Happy Valentine’s Day
Happy Valentine’s Day everyone. I took off early from work today to go drive by my potential houses in my budget. It is amazing how a picture can say so much, but not always quite the truth… and I’m pretty sure none of them are photo-chopped either. It was easier to rule out every house from just a drive by than rule any one in. I did find some areas I like though and I was raised to be very handy so I guess I’ll just have a project on my hands. I’m not really sure how people get ahead that are in my income class. Finding a house on my salary is pretty limiting. I just did the income taxes last night and apparently the government is taking an extra 25% out of my tax return this year compared to last year. I didn’t make 25% more last year and everything I own is just costing me more. It really is amazing when you think about all the things you pay taxes on. Even more amazing when you think about how much of that money gets spent back to benefit you. I think that’s why I shop online so much, that’s one tax I can get rid of. Why does the city feel they need to charge me a tax for buying something. They charged me properties for owning the land that I live on, they charged me wheel tax for the vehicle I drive to buy anything, they charged me hidden taxes on the fuel I have to use to get to the place, they’re charging taxes on the phone the business is using to keep in contact with their customers. Life is sometimes beyond frustrating. Especially when you officially have 1 month before you have to be out of your home and you have no clue where you’re going to be. I’m trying to get a new computer built and I tend to cash in on rebates as often as I can when buying computer parts. But I’m not even sure where to send my rebates too because I know it’s not going to come back in a month. I was thinking of buying those big magnetic letters and put them on the side of my truck. Then I’d just part outside of work and leave the window down a little. The mail man can just slip my mail through the window while I’m at work. As long as I assign my truck a number between the two building numbers it is parked between, if it was only that simple.
Look on the bright side you could still be unhappily married, walking through life pretending to be someone that you aren’t and have no desire to be… sometimes the best decisions in life are those that are most difficult to live with. Once you have reached the bottom there is only one way to go… well that isn’t exactly true there are two ways to go, sideways or up, hopefully things will look up for you soon.
It took me a long time to approve this comment. Obviously some things are a touchy subject and people’s feelings can easily be hurt and I would never want to do that to someone. Instead I decided it would be better just to comment back with my thoughts, in case someone misunderstands your post. I’m pretty sure your comment is based on personal experience. I don’t know if I would ever use the term unhappily married. Unhappily living, yes (which includes all sort of factors like my job and money), and unable to find a balance that was acceptable. Unfortunately, as you said, we rarely realize things until they are over and we have a chance to reflect from outside of a situation and what seems bad today may not seem bad down the road. The key point, there’s not really ever a good side to someone in a situation where separation is involved. It is never easy, even in extreme cases because it still is filled with disappoint, rejection, regret, etc.
I do not pretend to know your situation or what transpired to cause you to be where you are now I speak from personal experiences only. Sometimes people get to a point where they decide that to live as one causes more damage to both involved then the temporary pain caused by becoming two identities again, I believe it is possible to be in love with someone while not being able to be with them, we tend to treat those we love the most with the least amount of empathy, consideration and tenderness. As for unhappily living I think everyone no matter how happy they seem to others constantly struggle with things about themselves and their existence that does not make them happy, the key to being happy is to figure out how to look past the negative and focus on the positive. I know that sounds like a lot of Dr. Phil psycho babble but the only person that controls your state of happiness is the person you see in the mirror, looking for others to make you happy will only bring you disappointment and despair. You first have to be able to look inward and be honest with yourself about why you are not happy, what needs to change to make the change and then formulate a plan to get you there. I hope you find what it is that will bring the joy into your life that you want, life is not short it is the longest thing we will ever do and unless you are Shirley McClain you only get this one to make it what you want it to be.